Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Bitching about feminism

There seems to be a misunderstanding about Feminism in a few places.

1. Being a feminist doesn't not mean you have to be a butch bitch. (Excuse me if you are&are.)

It does not mean you cannot wear skirts, cannot wear eyeliner, or cannot allow a gentleman to open a door for you. It does not mean that you can't allow yourself to feel emotional, feminine or girly. It is exactly the opposite of that.

Mika & me. Super femme, right? Dress, bling, lipstick and TWO purses? But, still, feminist!

Being a feminist means you can wear whatever you want because you have the right to choose for yourself. Feminists from the first & second wave liberated us from our bras & our skirts because that was all society let us wear. Being a feminist now (during the third wave FYI) means you can choose whatever you want. all societal norms have been questioned & now the way is paved for us to embrace exactly what our hearts desire.

Do NOT feel that a skirt makes you less of a feminist, or that a bra makes you more of a conformist. Instead, embrace how nice your legs look in those heels & skirt! Dance & feel pretty! Just because feminism is real & happening, does not mean we as women should avoid being the prettier, sexier and more desirable sex! (Also, I know a good number of gay men who could out pretty me any day, le sigh.)

If they choose to be feminine, let the men do as they please, also!
(JKJKJK! I made him wear this)

2. Feminism killed Chivalry.

No, I don't think so. I think growing up in a society with a different regard for etiquette & politeness killed chivalry. I found this great article that listed some chivalrous acts not always seen today:

Chivalry Rule #1: Should I hold the door for a woman?
Chivalry Rule #2: Should I pull out her chair? (I personally don't like this one. I can barely stay in the chair myself, let alone have us both guess how best to seat me in it)
Chivalry Rule #3: Should I walk her to her door?
Chivalry Rule #5: Should I pay for each date?
Chivalry Rule #6: Should I help her with heavy items or bringing in multiple items like groceries?
Chivalry Rule #7: Should I give her my jacket if she is cold even though I may be chilly too? (This may definitely be a man-only type of politeness, because I can't see many men fitting into my jackets)

A lot of these I do for other people (like 1, 3, 6). Why not help when you can: help your mom carry things, hold the door open for the elderly, give your seat away on the bus to someone who needs it more. The truth is, we simply don't live in a time when people are as conscious about how helpful they can be to another person. Feminism didn't do that. It may have shed light that men need not just do it for women (a woman can always help a man!), but it did not kill chivalry.

Want to see chivalry revived? Teach your children to open doors for you & help you carry things, teach your younger cousins to wait for their grandparents, and always wait for someone to enter their house before leaving them at the door (even if you're just staring from inside the car). When a man forgets to open a door for you, then open it for yourself! There is nothing wrong with that. And if a gentleman opens a door for you, thank his mother, who didn't raise no fool.

If you really want to know what feminism is up to these days, read BITCH magazine, the feminist response to pop culture:

Also, feminism makes it possible for all of us to camwhore as we please. If feminism never happened, do you think women would have been given webcams? Noooo!

Small because I'm shy (for now!)

March Jelly Spam

Here are some of my favorite looks from March 2010 Jelly. (These are not my scans, but I found them online.)
Just love her make here. The eyes & lips are so sexy!

The brown waist belt is definitely an IT item for Spring 2010.

Boho shrugs are definitely being gal-ified. & I love flats, which, if leopard print, can definitely be gal.

Just love this entire look & her expression.

These are the thoughts floating in my head right now. Ahh, Spring 2010 looks very promising, and big change from the monotone of last season!

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

I have recently begun eating over-medium eggs (constantly), what is your opinion of eggs prepared this way, and what is your favorite way to eat eggs?

Hmm.. I'm just a recent convert to eating eggs over-any way, but I think the yolk is the part I haven't come around to yet. I've tried over-medium, and it's tasty, but I prefer my eggs over-hard if they must be fried. My most favorite way to eat an egg is hard-boiled. I learned my favorite recipe from my friend Ches, and we call this the "Lesbian Hard-boil":

Place eggs submerged in water in a pot
Heat on high until they reach a rolling boil
Remove from heat & leave covered for 15 minutes

After that, remove eggs from hot water & enjoy! The yolk should be fluffy and delicious!

Let me know what you think of this method.

What made you start eating eggs over-medium so much? What are your other favorite ways to eat egg?

Ask me anything

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Beaux in Bows BBQ

Last Sunday, we had a really delicious BBQ in honor of Spring's beginning sunshine. Before all everyone started arriving, I realized how much I loved bows & headbands & my bowheadbands (fck yes).. So here are my highlights from that weekend:

Let me know what you think! I'm having a giggle & hope you are, too!

(Cross-posted on my tumblr)

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Kiddie Crushes, Where are you? (Pt. 1)

I was reading Lauren's post, Where in the World is Jonathan Taylor Thomas?, and it got me thinking. Where are my childhood crushes, and, most importantly, what do they look like now...

Devon Sawa (gotta say it sexy) in Casper

I followed Devon since his first movie, Little Giants, where he starred alongside Becky 'Icebox' O'Shea and stole my little fob kid heart. I would literally rewind the end of my Casper tape just to watch him over and over again. Best Devon Sawa (DS) movies: Now & Then (not enough DS) & Wild America. Omg, I don't think another movie had so much hot 90s tween action than Wild America did. If you love DS and guys that looked at him, you need to watch that movie. I'll probably have to write another post about it all by itself, it was so damn delicious.

Anyway, where is Devon Sawa now & what does he look like?

I don't know how I feel about what he looks like now. A little bit of me just died inside and I''m going to have to continue this post later...

(And H just came home with McDonald's.)

Results of last night's St. George

Last night, the house & I decided to enjoy some Absinthe. Enjoy is a word I use loosely. I'm not a big fan of black licorice flavors at all, and with one of the bottles proclaiming 68% ALC, it was definitely a different type of fun. The night ended with most of us falling asleep to That 70s Show (awesome).

This morning, I realized that while everyone else was starting to drift to sleep, I was drunk downloading (free) iPhone apps. I reached for my phone and found six new apps. Most of them were more photography apps, but one of them was bright pink. Clicking on it brought this up:













WTF is this? Ewww!

Apparently I downloaded "BabyBuilder Lite", an app that uses "complex facial mapping and recognition algorithms to generate the most realistic looking babies possible". Granted, I didn't use the best pictures of us possible, but this baby is WEIRD looking. Not human at all & has the scariest old lady mouth ever.

This image is going to weird me out for a long time. Be careful out there folks, download what you will drunk, just make sure you don't pay for it!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

One of the things I like to do is cook, but haven't lately because I've been living with amateur-awesome-chef Matt.

Tonight I gave him a break.

Hutch cut over 4lbs of steak for me last night (lady nails do not touch such things). We marinated it overnight in soy sauce, lemon juice, sugar, garlic and pepper. Do you know what that makes?

Bistek or (Filipino) Beef Steak or one of the tastiest meals ever. With french fries, because some people do that & I believe that you can never have enough fries.


I got to wear my big hat the other day because it's been getting sunny. Ta-da:

Sometimes, I really feel like coffee can be part of an outfit. I usually carry a tumbler with me when running errands for work (and winning at 4square).

Full, still clean-nailed & now in sweat pants,


P.S. In case you wanted to know what my lady nails look like right now:

(They're real! & Really long! I don't know how long they'll stay that way though. Photo by my dear HP)

Sunday, March 14, 2010

I like many things!

My cat, Neko. She is actually my first non-fish pet, and I love her dearly. If you don't think you're a cat person, you need to own a cat. They're amazing & totally the lazygirl's pet.

Photography. I love art & all things beautiful, photography being at one of my top love positions. I took this photo in 2007, and it remains one of my favorites.

(Scan from a the last issue of Pinky (unsure))
Gal! Gal style, gal looks & gal lifestyle. I love Japanese gal fashion, and truly heartheartheart the gyaru movement. I believe in the gyaru outlook on life: everyday is a day to look and feel fabulous!

There are more things I enjoy, but a rerun of GLEE is on, and wins me!